Imagine being at a networking event in the real world. You’re face-to-face pressing the flesh with real people who seek connection like you.
You meet someone new. They’re impressive.
It’s as if they have a certain clarity and confidence about who they are and what they want.
After chatting for a bit, you ask, “By the way, what’s next for you?”
“Oh, that’s easy. Have you ever met a business owner who needed help getting funding for their company? That’s what I do; commercial business lending.”
Before you can say anything, your new connection asks, “What’s next for you?”
You don’t know what to say except, “Oh, me? I’m working on that. I’m not sure.”
Lack of Clarity
When you lack clarity, you’re not sure where you’re going.
Your goals aren’t clear. You second guess yourself often. You don’t feel great about yourself.
As a result, you lack confidence.
It shows. You may think something is wrong with you.
Shame becomes your shadow.
Most of us work in meaningless jobs we don’t like. Then, we retire tired and die.
We don’t know who we are or what we want.
Ask ten people what they want. Most people don’t know.
Almost everyone can tell you want they don’t want. They can tell you what they don’t have and don’t like.
But they can’t tell you what they want or where they’re going.
Here are the two biggest reasons you don’t know what you want thanks to the lectures of Alan Watts.
- You already got what you wanted and forgot. Remember the feeling of the new car, job, or relationship? Time decreases the utility of everything because the early excitement and infatuation wear off.
- You don’t know yourself well enough. How often do you invest time searching yourself? Chances are, you may be too busy to know who you are.
Cultivate Your Mind
It’s all in your mind if you believe you dropped out of the Garden of Eden.
If not, you become what you think. What you got out of life is what you’ve given it by your thinking.
We get conditioned, taught, and trained to be who we are until we wake up and say, “Hey, this stinks! I want more out of life.”
If you want to change your environment, start changing yourself by training your mind and replacing unhealthy habits with healthy ones.
Start changing yourself by searching inside yourself for new clarity.
Changing yourself means thinking about what’s next. It means having a process and support system you cultivate.
How to Know Yourself
Your goal is to search inside yourself and discover what you want based on your unique interests, gifts, skill, and ability.
When you know what you want, you’re immediately more successful than 100% of the people who don’t know what they want.
When you know your highest purpose is to receive your gifts, skills, interests, and abilities of your mind and spirit, you will put yourself in the service of others.
When you focus on putting yourself into the service of others, you create value that becomes attractive to others.
You also stop obsessing over what you don’t have by helping others get what they want. That’s how to get out of your way.
Use the following questions to search inside yourself when you block quiet time to ask, reflect, journal, and find clarity:
- What are your passions, unique gifts, and best skills? Think back to when you were a child. You played almost all the time. Your imagination was the gateway to discovery, dreams, and reality.
- What do you love to do in your spare time? Think about what excites you and gives you energy. Maybe it’s a sport, hobby, or practicing art. Imagine making a living doing what you love. (It’s possible because I’m doing it now.)
- What do you do well enough to teach? Chances are you know more about certain things than other people. Great teachers are great students. If you want to become a better teacher, start studying subjects that interest you.
- Who do you like to help the most? Working to make a difference for your employer, customers, students, etc., gives most people a good feeling. When you put yourself into the service of others, people will see you differently.
- What is a problem you solve for them? When you become part of the solution, you add value. Adding value is worth something. What you are worth per hour, week, month, or year is based on what you know and believe about yourself.
- What kind of work would you do for free? Imagine work you love doing so much you’d do it for free. Imagine becoming an expert doing what you love and finding ways to charge a fair fee or wage for doing work you love.
Successful people know what they want because they have a process for thinking, planning, and taking action.
Successful people write strategic plans of action.
Believe in yourself enough to find what’s next.
Ask, and you shall receive more clarity. You’re asking for guidance from within yourself, your heart, and your soul.
Believe, ask, receive.
Wait for guidance by trusting your feelings; intuition.
When you look at the world’s most admired, loved leaders, it’s not how much money they have that matters.
It’s what they DO to make a difference in the world that helps them win fame, admiration, and in some cases, Nobel Prizes.
Trust the ebb and flow. You can’t control the tides, only your mind.
The law of attraction doesn’t work if you don’t believe in yourself, set a goal, create a plan, and take action.
Connecting with Clarity
When you work “on” yourself, you take a strategic view. It’s a process of observing, learning, and self-discovery.
Clarity always comes when you believe, ask, and receive. Your purpose is your highest purpose and the value of that to others.
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Will you find clarity?
Yes, if you give yourself time, do the work, and trust my process.
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