Serenity On Dock In Water

About the author : Clifford Jones

Founder and "Chief Revenue Guy" at Clarity Strategic Advisors, LLC. Author, speaker, entrepreneur. Learn how to get better sales and marketing results, guaranteed.

Are you a business owner or leader who seeks more clarity, confidence, and calm? This article reveals my way to achieve daily solitude and serenity in a sea of seeming insanity.

I’ve lost my mind building my small businesses. And it happened more than once. If you own or lead a company, and you manage humans being human on a daily basis, you may be able to relate to the burning desire for even a moment of solitude and serenity in a world gone wild.

The good news is even though I “lost it” more than once, I learned how to bounce back. Resiliency is the byproduct of being powered by your purpose, going for it, and getting the crap kicked out of you along the way.

Some of us blow up and never bounce back. That’s sad. But when you take tough times and turn yourself around from the inside out, the business of life gets better. That has been my experience. We all go through tough times at work, home, and in between. Stress can kill us, yes. But it is also true we can use stress for success. My habits are one way to know how you can turn any situation around for the better because when you do this work your point of view will improve and you will begin to see remarkable signs that your “inner leader” is gaining more clarity, confidence, and calm.

World Gone Wild

Yes, most of us agree the world has gone wild. But study history and you will see we have it really good these days. Sure, we have issues. But imagine how our ancestors felt when the “Black Death” hit their small, rural villages scattered throughout Asia and Europe? Not good.

Fast forward to “the now.” We’re told that if we can somehow live in the now that we can experience a sense of bliss. I have read Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, many times and I think I “get it” now. Nothing is real. Sure. Except for making payroll. And firing the fool I’ve been “too busy” to fire. Then there is this impending feeling of doom every time we turn on the news. How can everything be blowing up and bloating out by virtue of all the prosperity we see around us modern day?

Okay, my coffee buzz is wearing off so I’ll get to the big point of my article: there’s a way to find solitude and serenity especially if you feel like you’re losing your mind because of the demands of your career, business, and life. What I am giving you are the elements that helped me get over myself. What I mean by this is my ego is not my amigo. I learned this from dear friends who showed me a better way to live than pounding my body and mind with three glasses of wine and who knows how many beers after tennis at the club with the boys.

Even Business Superheros Can Do This

In other words, I learned to be more still and calm my mind even though I’m growing a business that helps other business leaders grow their businesses without losing their shirts and most importantly, their minds. When I was younger and raising two sons with my amazing wife, I knew less about these habits, was less patient and willing to do the work. Just be willing to learn and practice any of the habits on my list.

Let me assure you that you can do this if you desire to have daily moments of solitude and serenity. I was thinking of doing something extreme like a trek or silent retreat, something like that. Instead, I’ve learned to achieve solitude and serenity at home. I’m even experiencing bliss now because I love to write.

You need not book a one-way trip to Tibet, tell your loved ones you’re moving to a monastery, or go live in the Arizona desert for forty days and forty nights and see if you don’t five finger death punch yourself. (I thought about all of these “alternative ways” and ended up in many dark places.)

Here are my top eight daily habits for finding solitude and serenity, bliss too, virtually every day because I am a mere mortal still finding my way.

  1. Wake up early. My natural wake up time is around 3 a.m. Nobody is up at that time. This means the only person who can get in the way of my morning routine is me. And what I’m sharing with you helps us get out of our own way even though it is true that in order to wake up early feeling amazing without an alarm clock is to go to bed around 8 p.m. We need to feed our bodies and minds with regular, quality, unaided, deep sleep.
  2. Sit and be still. As it becomes easy to get out of bed and feel energized, it will be easier to go to your quiet place of choice, sit, and just be. That’s it. Just be. Don’t do. Now, if you take a cup of tea or coffee or lemon water en route, fine. I love taking my black coffee in the morning. I also find music that eases my mind and calms my soul. But mostly it’s quiet for several hours until my wife and rescue mutt wake up.
  3. Breathe consciously. Do you think about breathing or does it happen automatically? Do you breathe from your chest or your belly? Do you breathe through your mouth or your nose? Learning to breathe is paramount to finding many moments of clarity, calm, solitude, and serenity even if you’re surrounded by a sea of fools in an airport. It’s called “the breath of life” for a reason. But most of us don’t consciously think about breathing all day long.
  4. Read. Words have power. Words take me to places and different perspectives that open my heart and mind to not being such a selfish jerk. I choose to read the Bible and many other spiritual books including those of all the world’s great religions because I believe we are all brothers and sisters and we seek the same things; security, meaning, love, and fruits of the spirit we often lack chasing squirrels in the material world.
  5. Contemplate. I contemplate what I’ve read and felt inside what I might feel. Sometimes I don’t feel much. Other times I’m overwhelmed with feelings of grace and peace. Contemplate is often used interchangeably with meditate. Contemplation is different as a practice for me. This is what Merriam-Webster gives us. “to view or consider with continued attentionmeditate on contemplate the vastness of the universe contemplated the meaning of …” Try it.
  6. Meditate. I’ve studied and practiced meditation poorly for over thirty years. I get better all the time. There is no one way even though many books I’ve read would have me believe the author’s way is the way. Clearly, if one person has a way, there must be a way for the rest of us even if the way to meditate is completely up to us. I sit straight up, my butt slightly off the edge of a simple chair. I fold my right hand on top of my left, and I start to pray a silent prayer and breathe. When my mind wanders or attacks me, I bring it back to the center of my seated position, the core of the body, the Dantian, “loosely translated as “elixir field”, “sea of qi”, or simply “energy center”. Dantian are the “qi focus flow centers”, important focal points for meditative and exercise techniques such as qigong, martial arts such as t’ai chi ch’uan, and in traditional Chinese medicine.” I normally sit for 20 minutes at least once a day. It’s changing my quality of life beyond words.
  7. Journal. I’ve kept a journal off and on since 1981. At this point in my life, journaling most mornings is how I get on paper what gets stored between heart and mind. I’m a writer, so writing is bliss for me, especially if I can write about myself. Journaling for me is like have a conversation with God. Sound goofy? Try it. Write. Ask questions to your higher power. See if you get answers. Write them down. Plus, journaling is scientifically proven to rewire the human brain. Buy this book if you want to learn the science and power of journaling: Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health, by Dr. Caroline Leaf. Write and grow rich!
  8. Exercise. This could easily be the most important aspect that is driving my improved health and quality of life as I approach my final quarter on this planet. I love to walk, practice yoga, qigong, hike, ride bicycles, camp in nature, practice barebow archery, and win Pickleball championships. Exercise changes everything. Sadly, I’m told only about 20% of Americans work out most days. Just look around. I’m not being critical. It’s sad if not tragic more of blame healthcare systems for our woes instead of taking care of the system that gives us health.

There is my list. I didn’t plan to go into this much detail. But the coffee has been good to me today. I had a great night’s sleep. And the only step I have yet to do today on this list is #8. That’s next.

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About the author : Clifford Jones

Founder and "Chief Revenue Guy" at Clarity Strategic Advisors, LLC. Author, speaker, entrepreneur. Learn how to get better sales and marketing results, guaranteed.

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